Aging in place

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David and I went to dine at Zippy’s one evening and happened to see our 89 year old neighbors sitting nearby. Imagine, they still live in their house, still drive, and are still married.  I think that is amazing.

One of the reasons they have not sold their house and moved into a small retirement apartment is that they have so much stuff that they don’t want to part with. For example, their piano.  How could they ever part with their piano?  Further, they don’t want to be hampered by rules, such as not being allowed to play the piano at any time of the day or night.

As for driving, the husband is in fine shape. He ran his last marathon at age 85, finishing in 7-8 hours.

And  they have been married for many, many years with no end in sight. I wish I could reach the age of 89 without being a widow.

This makes me think of my future with David. I would love to age in place like my neighbors.  The key is to manage our money wisely and stick to a budget.  We try to live on income and not touch savings (except for emergencies).

Do you intend to age in place, too?

19 Responses to “Aging in place”

  1. denise Says:

    It is lovely to hear of your neighbors independence. Hopefully we will be able to live such a way when we reach their age. At this point in time I have no desire to live in a retirement community but I will never say never. We have friends who do and they love it.

  2. mary jane s. Says:

    Taxes on our home gets a little testy now and then, but neither my hubs or myself had parents who actually owned a home..always renting and rent was hard to come by for both families, now my aunt and my grandma had homes my aunt bought and maintained while running her business out of a huge home she rented rooms to some select individuals, she married several times but never kept married, never any children who could in the time she worked and worked she is nearly 100 and living in a retirement place she owns a lot of the property, doing fine..We want to live as long as we can in one place it makes for a great retirement if one has the means..

  3. Olga Says:

    I want to age in place, just not this place.

  4. Jan Says:

    I am reading a really good book called “Being Mortal” and how people are coping with the inevitable changes that come as we age. I think aging in place is a wonderful idea. Congratulations to your neighbors for finding a way to do that. 🙂

  5. Joanne Says:

    Lovely begonias. I’m growing more fond of them.
    I’m glad your neighbors remain independent; it’s not easy.

  6. Christine Says:

    It would be a dream…if we stay healthy.

  7. mageb Says:

    No, our place is 3 stories tall. And too, we have to stay healthy.

  8. SchmidleysScribbling Says:

    Definitely aging in place. As David is 85, we’ve done pretty well. He still drives locally, but no long trips for him.

  9. tom sightings Says:

    It’s important to manage your finances, yes, but even more important to manage your health. Anyway, I;m like Olga — in place, but not my current place.

  10. Grannymar Says:

    I make the most of each day. My husband died sixteen years ago, so I manage to live alone with no family near me. I have health issues, that sometimes cause concern, but I deal with them calmly and quietly without others fussing around me. If I die tomorrow, so what? So long as I leave good memories for my family, that is all that matters. After all, none of us will get out of this world ALIVE!

  11. dkzody Says:

    We have lived in this house 34 years. It’s paid for and in fairly good shape. We reproofed and painted last year. About $10,000 in work. Next we would like new flooring and interior painting. We will have to save to do that work.

    Taxes in California are very reasonable due to Proposition 13 from decades ago. We only pay 1% of what the property cost when we bought it. Works well for those of us who stay a long time in a home.

    We are healthy now but we are still very young. Can we stay like this for another 20 years when we will be old?

  12. Cathy Says:

    We all have different ‘needs and wants’ Gigi – mine could be entirely different to yours. I may want to stay in my own home for the rest of my life – there are adequate community health care facilites locally along home based care programs to ensure I wont go without as I age but it’s possible my needs could change and I would have to have specialised care in a nursing home.

    As it is I share your view that living in my own home is preferable to retirement village living not because of any ‘rules’ but because I enjoy living with the general population around me and certainly dont think I would enjoy living where there are only ‘older’ people in the vicinity of my property..

    But as I say that could change at the drop of a hat!

  13. Granny Annie Says:

    My sister is here and we have been discussing this very thing. Our homes are filled with things we enjoy and do not wish to part with them now or anytime soon. She and her husband just celebrated their 50th anniversary and they enjoy so much together. If only, if only, if only we all say, yet changes will come.

  14. Lux Ganzon Says:

    Aww. I wish that too. I wish to age gracefully and stress free on finances. Wish you and your fam good health and a great life!

  15. Beatrice P. Boyd Says:

    How wonderful that your neighbors are aging in place and seem perfectly content and happy, as do you and David, Gigi. We have decided that we want to have more time to do things we enjoy without the pressures of caring for a home. So, after 10 plus years of working on and living in an older home, we are planning to relocate to an apt…we only wish our home would sell first, but will move reagardless.

  16. Linda Starr Says:

    this past year I hurt my shoulder, now my knee I hope I can make it in place but sometimes I wonder. the stairs here are a real draw back. Gary does all the yard work and both of his arms are giving out and we couldn’t afford to hire anyone to do the work, we are thinking we may have to move to a condo or town home but must have a garage for my kiln, we shall see.

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